tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post7533862644515767282..comments2023-11-24T18:29:51.733+10:00Comments on jellyhead: on being aloneJellyheadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05344630172173199819noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-34871963360973269702007-04-27T11:08:00.000+10:002007-04-27T11:08:00.000+10:00how true....how true....Alipurrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15374786444894161920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-31863945329270118802007-04-17T15:46:00.000+10:002007-04-17T15:46:00.000+10:00Just wanted to let you know you were nomainted for...Just wanted to let you know you were nomainted for a Thinking Blog Award!Mackeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16030325528902514986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-47397315441454148092007-04-17T04:19:00.000+10:002007-04-17T04:19:00.000+10:00Hi Jelly,I came here from Kerri's to read about he...Hi Jelly,<BR/>I came here from Kerri's to read about her Thinking Blogger nominees.<BR/>I must say this was a very touching post to me. My own Grandpa is nearly 99 and I could relate to so much of what your Grandpa was able to verbalize to you.<BR/>I'm glad to meet you through Kerri...<BR/>:)Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00024132046092264711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-66880720939533030322007-04-16T10:34:00.000+10:002007-04-16T10:34:00.000+10:00There you go thinking again. See, I told you, you ...There you go thinking again. See, I told you, you are a <I>great</I> thinker! And having thought, you have a remarkable gift for putting it into words to share with us...and consequently, you make us think. <BR/>I know how much your grandpa loves to have you visit. How sweet you are to care so mucha bout him. <BR/>I'm thinking I should go call my dad....<BR/>I'm glad you had a little taste of freedom. Young mums need that once in a while :)<BR/>I hope your week isn't too hectic Jelly. xoxoKerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18362584475435433892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-66403716033491716642007-04-14T01:02:00.000+10:002007-04-14T01:02:00.000+10:00As I read Val's comment I agreed with much of what...As I read Val's comment I agreed with much of what she said about your grandpa. He is lonely at a predictable time of day and to ease his loneliness this would be a good time for family to visit or to plan activities. Do you have senior citizen centers over there? My father enjoyed visiting and participating in activities with other seniors for a while until he got too cranky.<BR/><BR/>Although my daughter has always loved alone time for her own special activities, she is going through the empty nest thing right now. She has too much alone time, but she'll just have to find ways to use her time to her advantage. She can always come visit me more often, although I see her everyday already. <BR/><BR/>I am so lucky to have all my children & grandchildren living so close, but I know there will come a day when we will all feel like your grandpa and don't want to be a burden to anyone all the while suffering from loneliness. <BR/><BR/>Jelly you are a wonderful granddaughter and I know your grandfather looks forward to your visits very much.Sandy Hatcher-Wallacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15011307599473627922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-60696253168948979952007-04-13T19:17:00.000+10:002007-04-13T19:17:00.000+10:00Jelly, he loves you so, & your vistits are so impo...Jelly, he loves you so, & your vistits are so important. <BR/>I was shocked to find, at the end of my Mum's life, I was her parent.<BR/>And I loved her so fiercly!! No one could harm her!meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061112627819270427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-7531993483663098622007-04-13T19:15:00.000+10:002007-04-13T19:15:00.000+10:00I see a few positives here. First you are recognis...I see a few positives here. First you are recognising that you need time on your own, away from your roles as mother, wife, daughter, etc. I think that many people don't realise this. It's necessary to be on your own to be able to appreciate your own company and as <I>practice</I> for later on.<BR/><BR/>Second, your grandpa has given you such a great tip: he's lonely at a predictable time of day. Now you might not be able to personally visit with him during that time, but could you organise to call him once in a while during that time? Do GPs get afternoon teabreaks? ha! But you could maybe get others to contact or visit him then, or are there community services that provide something in the afternoon? If a few of these afternoons are accounted for, your grandpa might even come to relish a "day off" once in a while.<BR/><BR/>As for the "lingering loss" when you are no longer indispensable to your children? Jelly Jelly Jelly! Believe me, this will be such a sweet relief, you won't know yourself.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04456736523331076619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-3331924825934898602007-04-13T10:52:00.000+10:002007-04-13T10:52:00.000+10:00I do feel for your Grandpa. Poor old soul, not wa...I do feel for your Grandpa. Poor old soul, not wanting to be a burden, yet lonely because of not wishing to take up a visitor's time.<BR/><BR/>It is hard when the children leave home and I guess that your grandpa is totally alone without even his life's partner. How sad is that?<BR/><BR/>What can one do, except visit? My neighbour's lovely old dad lives on their property, but because she and her husband work, he gets lonely, too. There's something to be said about extended families like there used to be long ago.Puss-in-Bootshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02313418336654760327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-60485762590413119692007-04-13T08:40:00.000+10:002007-04-13T08:40:00.000+10:00Oh Jelly that was beautiful! I wish I could visit ...Oh Jelly that was beautiful! I wish I could visit your Grandpa too!! I often wish I had afternoons alone 3-6 would be great!! But I do miss my kids when I am away from them and have time to myself.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08508899798890769544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-54053839045704821072007-04-13T07:19:00.000+10:002007-04-13T07:19:00.000+10:00Jelly, you made me cry again. Struggling to fill t...Jelly, you made me cry again. Struggling to fill the hours between 2 and 4 just set me right off. I guess all we can is treasure the time that we have together, and enjoy and appreciate the snatched moments of solitude while they are so precious.thisismehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01281027325104604961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-22682485615858455212007-04-13T06:55:00.000+10:002007-04-13T06:55:00.000+10:00Jelly,I too am misty eyed!In true male fashion:We ...Jelly,<BR/>I too am misty eyed!<BR/><BR/>In true male fashion:<BR/>We only have this moment.<BR/><BR/>;-)<BR/>relrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09030572981830789370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-69767028975114568612007-04-13T01:23:00.000+10:002007-04-13T01:23:00.000+10:00Oh dear Jelly.That was beautiful. But I really mus...Oh dear Jelly.<BR/><BR/>That was beautiful. <BR/><BR/>But I really must go call my Gramps now. I don't want him to feel alone.Redneck Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09947243296264284961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17440241.post-86532496413113258872007-04-13T00:40:00.000+10:002007-04-13T00:40:00.000+10:00Jelly, I am sitting here almost in tears. Althoug...Jelly, I am sitting here almost in tears. <BR/><BR/>Although I can understand and appreciate your savoring your brief "bread run" and being all alone, I can feel your grandpa's pain of his coming to the end of his life just treading water, so to speak -- just trying to fill his days and nights and not be a burden to anyone. I think each human's wish is not to be a burden to anyone as they approach the end of their life and to not suffer. I think this waiting IS suffering and IS ghastly, never knowing whether this day will be the last. No one knows when their number is up. <BR/><BR/>I also think that's why they "invented" nursing homes which are nothing more than warehouses for the infirm, the aged, and those who are unable to take care of themselves anymore. I think most old folks' prayers are, please let me go quickly, don't let me suffer, and don't let me be a burden to my family.<BR/><BR/>You are certainly a dear one to be so attentive to your grandpa. I know that he appreciates your presence in his life more than you know. I'm glad I "know" you.Motherkittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05112722238053618079noreply@blogger.com